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"Mr Bennet, captivated by youth and beauty, and that appearance of good humour, which youth and beauty generally live, had married a woman whose weak understanding and illiberal mind, had very early in their marriage put an end to all real affection for her. Respect, esteem, and confidence, had vanished for her; and all his views of domestic happiness were overthrown."
- Pride and Prejudice

When reading the book Pride and Prejudice, this factor was somewhat annoying to me. It was understandable he did not entirely respect Mrs Bennet, as she was VERY interfering, rude, and whiney. What annoyed me was, that he married her for beauty? Is that not strange? To me, if you dated someone for their beauty, you would only be incredibly disappointed when you went out for dinner and had nothing to talk about; nothing in common!! Do you just stare at their incredibly gorgeous eyes and say nothing the entire time?
It makes me wonder how many women or men out there are only dating the most beautiful people, and not for what is in the interior - not the exterior.
You're not supposed to get butterflies when you look into his perfectly sculpted glistening face. You're supposed to get butterflies when he says the most sweetest things to you, when he makes you feel like you're the only girl in the world exists. You don't want a man who walks into a romantic restaurant, checking his reflection in a window and looking around to see if any girls are looking at him. A man, in my opinion, should be 100% focused on HIS girlfriend, and making sure that she feels special. So, in summary:
DONT fall for superficial qualities and Brad Pitt lookalikes. He's not checking you out dear, he's looking at his reflection in a dinner spoon.

Second point: Millions of women drive themselves insane thinking of ways to keep their man. They listen to the traditional dating rules as if it is a bible. When they've had an amazing hot date with a man, and everything went perfect, they make the mistake of not calling for three days. This is, in their opinion, to check whether the man is interested or not, so the MAN will call. Girls, don't rely on a man to call. A lot of men don't like using the phone. If the phone is the demon in the dating process, then avoid the phone and email him, text, send something sweet to him, anything that will relieve the tension. If you've had an awesome date, don't kill it by not getting back to him the next day. He'll think you're rude, or you're just not interested in him.
Women do crazy things. Take my sister for example. When she was dating a guy, she would browse horoscopes on the net, and try figure out if her date was compatible with her. Sucked in by the "Check your compatibility" ads, she would listen to them intently and suddenly find herself confused whether she liked the man enough.
I remember when I was 13, and up until I was 15, I would type in names in the online "Love Calculator".   How lame, I think now. Heck,  I typed in George Bush and MY name, and it came up with 86% compatibility. If he was the last man on earth, I know I would chose a big hairy ape over him.

But that's besides the point.

The point is, don't drive yourself up a wall and inside out over a guy who loves himself more than he loves you, and don't bother with those compatibility crap. Trust your own instincts (no I don't mean Basic Instinct); listen to what YOU want in the relationship and look for the signs if he's into you. I'm not trying to say that I know everything, I've made my own stuff ups, but I'm learning from them. From my mistakes and failures in the past, I'm making sure I work my current relationship better. I absolutely adore my boyfriend. I feel like I've died and gone to heaven, Charlie heaven. I'm floating around on a big fluffy cloud and it doesn't get much better than this.

I have met, liked, and dated a few assholes in my lifetime so far, and I had to swim through those few men to get to the loveliest guy in the world. I've had my heart crushed and stomped on the ground, been broken up with on my birthday, and so I have been through a lot of ups and downs. I promise that if you have met an ass, or are dating a guy who doesn't seem to be what you thought he was, you WILL meet Prince Charming. It just takes a lot of ass's to get there.

Love, me.

This is Anon, otherwise known as Anonymous, or; a confused dater, a girlfriend, a retarded guitar hero II fanatic, a complicated girl, a teenie, etc etc. Whatever you may want to call me, I don't mind. I'm here on LJ to write articles and diaries using my own life and experience, or lack of.
I shall attempt to watch (but not stalk) the male species and try determine their behavior. My boyfriend will be the test guinea pig (not literally!) as you may call it, as I want to learn why men behave in such curious ways. Men often say "Women are confusing creatures and a man should never try to understand them or their head shall explode". What bull! We may be more or less complicated, but isn't that the whole point of dating someone? If men could understand us, life would be a skip and a frolic in a dandelion field. Infact, we wouldn't even have to worry about anything, we wouldn't have to explain why we're grumpy when we have our periods, men wouldn't run away as if we have rabies and yell "ewwww!!". How many men (or boys, I should say), have I met that have backed away from me when I said my stomach hurt? I think I speak for millions of women when I say that for ONE day I would like a man to have a period. But that is beside the point.
Us women have to be somewhat complicated and uneasy to understand so that we are DATEABLE.  We aren't dateable when a man can read us like a book. If they understood what we were going to do in the next 5 minutes, they wouldn't bother to grab our ass, or come up to us and attempt their cute but lame pick up line. I have heard of a LOT of lame ones. Did men just give up trying to seduce us all?
"Hi, I'm the new Milkman. Do you want it in the front or the back?" Followed by an almighty slap in the chops.
"Help, something's wrong with my eyes - I just can't take them off you." I almost choked on my drink.
"I seem to have lost my number, can I have yours instead?" I laughed at this one.

Have men lost the will to conjure up something ingenious?!  Are we reduced to dating neanderthals?

Now, before I keep on ranting, I would like to make ONE point very clear. Not all men are neanderthals, just the ones that dysfunctionally urinate all over the toilet bowl. The real impressive men do exist in this world. Infact my proof is that I have found my Prince Charming. We describe Prince Charming as "a stock character who originates in a number of fairytales. He is the prince who comes to the rescue of the damsel in distress, and typically must engage in a quest to liberate her from an evil spell."
In this case, my boyfriend is the character and I feel as though I am in a fairy tale book that I don't want to end.  Technically he didn't come to my rescue because I'm not a damsel in distress, but at the time I was going through a rough patch and he came to my rescue and made me a happier person. He liberated me from the evil spell of drama in my life, and made life seem so much easier and less complicated. My boyfriend is almost close to perfect, the type of boy your mother would go ga-ga over and push you into a jewelry store for a wedding ring. The type of boy your father would shake hands with, slap on the back and clink a beer glass to. Don't all women want that for themselves? It seems like I have won the boyfriend-lotto (if there was such a thing). I really couldn't be more happier. He is sweet, funny, caring, sensitive, honest, adorable, gorgeous, did I mention sweet? So sweet that your teeth would crack. He looks after me, he cuddles me, he loves me for my goofy self, he follows me around like a puppy and treats me like a princess. I can't help but look at him and melt. I know that no one in the world is perfect (exception of mother teresa), but my guy is about 98% perfect. In the other 2%, he has little habits like leaving the toilet lid up (I've almost slipped into the loo because of it), and he often can't leave my side even when I go to the bathroom to wash my hand or reapply some lipgloss. I can't be annoyed at him for it because everything he does is so incredibly sweet.

I know if something ever happened between us, I would NEVER find another guy like him. I really do believe that. I have this exciting feeling in my heart that I could be with my boyfriend for a loooong long time; which means, when we are both are wrinklier than a prune and he has to start taking viagra.

Speaking of a long time, next Monday is our One Year Aniversary and I am SO excited. I feel like going on a shopping spree for him, but I know my wallet would hate me for it. He does deserve it though. We're going out into the city, just like we did on our first date, and we're going to repeat history like we did when we first met each other. It's going to be very romantic and fantastic. Only, this time I won't be a nervous wreck and all shy like the first time we met.

Chocolate, love, cuddles, and long hot baths,
Anon.